The reality of being in a interracial relationship
Times have changed and people are now more evolved and more understanding. Interracial dating is much easier now than it was in the past. However there are some realities that you will have to face being in a interracial relationship. The race factor will continuously be inserted into your everyday lives either consciously or unconsciously. Here are some of the truths that will keep cropping up in your relationship.
1. WHAT WILL YOUR CHILDREN LOOK LIKE?
This will definitely a factor that will bring race back into the picture. You may be white and your partner may be black or vice versa or you may be Asian and your partner may be German. You and others will constantly wonder what the predominant features of your children will be. Will they take more after you or your partner or will it be more of an equal mixture?
2. PEOPLE WILL THINK THAT IT’S A FETISH
This is true sadly of even your family and closest friends. They will assume that you are dating from that particular race to fulfill some fetish or fantasy of yours. They will make race seem like the main reason as to why you are dating the other person but the truth is far from that. You started dating that person because you had a connection with them and this is what you need to keep in mind. Let people assume what they want, it is only important you know what truly matters.
3. MAKING IT A BIG DEAL
Even if no one in your family and friends mind, there will always be those few random people who will make it a big deal. They can’t seem to get over the fact that you are dating someone from a different race and automatically assume that other people will also think in a similar manner. For them, race is the only thing they see when they look at your relationship and it is best to avoid such people as they are not truly concerned about you and will keep bringing your differences into the picture.
Then there will also be those who will try so hard to show that they are not racist by claiming that they have also dated people from other races. These people may not actually mean any harm or have any negative emotions towards you. However they will try to keep bringing up your race and telling you how good it is to be in a interracial relationship. Though this is sweet, you should make it clear to them that race is not what holds importance here but the fact that you love each other and that’s all that matters.
Thus, these are a few realities every couple in an interracial relationship will face but as long as you both have a solid foundation and have a good understanding, race will not take priority in your lives. Love is all that matters and it will bind two people together.