What to Do if People Stare At You and Your Interracial Partner
Everything’s going nicely. Your family and his/her family are okay with you seeing a mixed race or interracial partner. Then, all of a sudden, you get those uncomfortable stares from other people. You may wonder, what are they staring at? Are they racist or are they thinking something about your interracial dating?
It’s natural to react this way and it is a bit rude to continually stare at a couple without giving an explanation. But before we discuss what you should do, just think for a moment why these people are probably staring and that may mitigate your harsh feelings. After all, people are usually not close-minded and are very tolerant and embracing of multiculturalism.
They may be jealous of the fact that you have an attractive partner of another race and are staring, just wondering how much fun you’re having. Quite the compliment! Or they may be wondering how it feels to be doing something so “controversial”. Perhaps they are immature and are thinking that interracial partners are only interested in sex or experimentation. In any event, it doesn’t really matter because very few of them are actually thinking malicious thoughts.
What should you do if you do see people staring at you during your date?
1.Just take it as a compliment.
First, understand that the majority are by in large supportive of interracial dating and mixed race dating. Therefore, they while may make you feel awkward, they are probably just curious about you, and are not trying to cause you harm. Think about yourself for a moment. Have you ever stared at someone because they’re attractive, or because you were intrigued at what they were doing or how they looked? Have you ever felt socially awkward and made small talk with a person that didn’t make much sense? Has a stranger ever come up to you and complimented you? That’s really all most of these people are thinking behind those stares.
2.If staring bothers you, don’t go places where you might get a lot of stares.
While you could just grin and endure all the funny looks, if it really starts to bother you avoid places where you know people are not very open-minded. Some people claim that country music concerts are a questionable place. Or perhaps a Donald Trump rally? You never really know until you go the first time. And if you go to a location where people are giving you coy looks, there’s certainly nothing wrong with leaving and going somewhere where you and your date can feel welcomed.
3.They may actually be happy to see you!
Some people stare because they are genuinely happy for you, and may even be thinking back to their own history, or their own desires to do what you’re doing. You could even confront the person and kindly say hello. (You don’t have to be nasty about it) You could introduce yourself or ask what’s wrong? You may be surprised at what the other person has to say. It’s usually never a negative comment, not in this day and age.
So why not just go out in public, be proud of yourself, and enjoy the support of others?